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How can you create that special parental bond with your kid?
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- By being your true person -
- to love and care about yourself
- as you would love and care about your kid.
- When you pay that special attention to your kid
- as you would take that same special attention tending to your own needs,
- you will create that special bond with your kid (and yourself).
- Understand that your kid is a special extension of you that you can share,
- but he/she is an independent individual (rather than a part of you), and
- the bond is the "glue" that hold you together.
- The bond is the synchronicity created by
- sharing the common traits you have, and
- yet accepting the differences as unique individuals.
- The bond is created by
- being in tune with yourself while at the same time
- being in tune with your kid mentally, physically and emotionally.
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How can you maintain that special parental bond with your kid?
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- By being consistent with your own self -
- to love openheartdely without withholding or demanding,
- while setting limits with behaviors (rather than setting limits with love).
- Understand the difference between love and behavior:
- Love is an emotion, while
- behavior is an act.
- Withholding love is dysfunctional,
- while setting limits with behavior is functional (healthy relating).
- Love yourself first, and tend to your needs first:
- When you don't tend to your own needs, you can't pay that extra attention to your kid (or anybody for that matter).
- When your wants and needs are not fulfilled, that's where conflicts are created - who's needs are going to be get met?
- Once you have your wants and needs met, you will have plenty to give to your kid.
- Why self-love won't lead to selfishness?
- Because selfishness is a behavior to hoard things when you don't have enough.
- When you have plenty, or more than enough, most people won't hoard things around.
- That's why when you can love yourself, you will have plenty to love another person, including your kid.
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How can you identify that special parental bond with your kid?
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- Understand the true nature of yourself and your kid:
- When you know the similarities and differences between your personality-types,
- you will easily identify what is that special, unique bond that holds you together.
- The first step is to identify your own true type -
- the personality you are born with that is true to your nature.
- Once you identify your own true nature, you will be able to identify the uniqueness between you and your kid.
- Then the bond is automatically created when you accept the differences between you, and
- welcome the specialness and uniqueness of you two.
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now to find out your true nature.